Dating people

Would you date someone who is openly trans? Or nonbinary? Do you think of the people you consider yourself attracted to first in terms of their gender and second in terms of how you relate to each other?

http://queer-voices.com/2015/10/would-you-date-a-transgender-person/

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On “Transvestite” and “Transsexual”

I hate these words. The first sounds like a pathology, like some medical term for a psychological disorder, which makes sense because it used to be one. It’s also cissexist, since it’s rarely applied to trans men and usually just gets stuck to glammed-up guys.

Transsexual in particular is immensely misleading! It makes it seem like being trans is all about SEX, like, copulation, because that’s the root of the word–SEX. ┬áMeeting this word when I was younger fucked up my idea of who I was for years. I thought being trans (which I knew I was) also made me a pervert, some kind of bizarre orgasm-seeking creature obsessed with being prettified. THAT IS NOT THE CASE. BEING TRANS IS ABOUT GENDER DYSPHORIA (for me) and subconscious gender and brain maps and the relationship I have with my body and the relationship my body has to itself. None of that is about orgasms. No more transsexual, please. It creates unnecessary ambiguity about the person taking the label, and can mislead hapless cishetero folks into stigmatizing us.

Fuck these words. Get them out of the lexicon.

Thank you and have a nice year.

List of Plans

1) Read more.
2) Get a car that moves.
3) Read more.
4) Get a job I don’t hate.
5) Read more.
6) Read more poetry.
7) Take more risks with my relationships.
8) Take more risks with my genders.
9) Write more bad things.
10) Be afraid of things and do them anyway.
11) Be a better ally–the struggle affects us all.
12) Legal name change.
13) More yoga, more often.
14) Read more.
15) Deathblow to the beard remnant.
16) Read more.